So this weekend, I was spending time with my boyfriend and his mom who's in town visiting. We were enjoying the pool of the hotel she's staying in and I just so happen to notice one of the employees and realized it's my best friend from high school. So, of course, I have to run over there to say hi and catch a bit.
It was nice to catch up again, but he hasn't changed one bit: working a dead end job, rehashing the same dramas about his wife, fighting with his parents over his life, telling me stories of getting into fights because "he had to," etc. Again it makes me question, how or why we were friends in high school as he was exactly the same back them and his decisions didn't make any sense to me then either.
Here's one solution that I found to be utterly stupid: He told his wife to quit her job. The problem: he never got to see her. The situation: she was working, going to school, and in her spare time, she'd go out partying with her friends. They have a child with substantial medical issues and they agreed on a solution that reduced their income - WTF?
Or his take on work, he enjoys drawing and is pretty good at designing structures/projects (the do-it-yourself type), but he chose not to go to school to get a degree in a field that would get him out of the dead end job cycle because as he states it "I don't like their rules, I want to build things how I like it." Mind you, he always seems to be looking for a better job, with no degree and no real understanding of how to behave appropriately (consistently).
Seriously, this kind of attitude and behavior is not something limited to this one friend, I see it all the time. I just can't wrap my brain around how these types of people don't understand that they bring a lot of their problems on them self. It's really amazing and annoying to have to stand/sit there pretending to be sympathetic when all I really want to say is "well, if you thought it through and behaved like an adult, you wouldn't be in this mess" or "if you had any common sense, you'd know being a d**k to your boss [friend/authoritative figure/anyone] would result in you getting fired [reprimanded/drama/unpleasant result], despite your reasoning that they were being unfair [d**k/unpleasant/rude/etc] causing you to behave as such. And it should be pointed out from your story, you just don't understand how politics [in general] work in the work environment and simply behaved stupidly."
Why do I have friends like these? Such a pain to try to be nice when all I want to do is stop them in their tracks and say:
You (at some point in the situation) f-ed it up. Quit your b***hing. Learn to act and react right or life will always be hard.
It actually really makes me appreciate all those times my mom would get on my case about situations where I was the one being punished because my actions often incited the punishment or inflamed a situation to warrant punishment. I guess, I learned my lesson, why can't others?
[Yes, I realize I'm whining about whiny people. I got to the end of my rant (relatively short for me, I say) and quit my b***hing. The problem with this is that I know the politics and I can't simply avoid or be straight up honest to whiny (behaviorally stupid) people as it doesn't go over well and would tend to cause me more drama than it's worth. So this is the result and i can deal with that.]